Sunday, October 10, 2010

Leading with the Soul

This past week I was faced with a real dilema at my campus. One of my students has been not attending school and spending his days with older boys in his neighbor, smoking dope and possibly selling crack. I wanted so badly for this young man to make it since he has had all the odds against him...no significant male figures in his life; a single mother who is working and going to school; and a learning disability. My dilema was, "do I get involve to the point that I intervene in this kid's life and get emotionally involved or do I report him to juvenile probation and let the courts take care of the situation?" The very next absent day from school I decided that I would go to his house and bring him to school. When I arrived he was not home, but as I stepped off the porch I spotted him turning around at the sidewalk to walk away after seeing me. I got in my car and followed him and as I pulled up next to him, I insisted that he get in the car. He complied. When we arrived back at the school I spoke with him for over an hour. I sent him on to class not knowing if anything got through to him. He remained at school that day and came the school the next day which was his first two consecutives days in attendance in over two weeks. Sometimes we have to lead with the soul...

5 comments:

  1. I have had the opportunity to be an administrator at all 3 levels, high school, middle school, and now elementary. Each level brings its own set of challenges.
    I found your story to be uplifting, but it brought back many memories of students that I worked with in similar circumstances. In high school especially, kids wondered the halls (and often the woods) without any direction. Academics took a back seat to other worries in their life. They often went home to horrific conditions and had only their misguided friends to lead them.
    I found that my spirit was often uplifted when I took the time to go the extra mile with these troubled youth. The relationships that I built with them continue to last.
    I ran into one of my students from a few years back. I had worked with him for 4 years, along the way assigning him many consequences. He come up to me, gave me a hug and said thank you for helping me. Whenever I am about to do something stupid, your words ring in my ears!

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  2. Oh Billy! In our line of work, the heart plays a big role. Our hearts get torn and we have to make that heart call--letting the kiddos know we care! Your heart did right.

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  3. Amen...Traci and I am so very glad Billy you made that visit with the young man. They do need to know we care and that we are willing to be part of their lives.

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  4. God bless you, and may your tribe increase. As a long-term public school teacher and administrator I know your experience from my own. My heart aches for the ones we love and rejoices for the ones we are able to influence in a positive direction.

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  5. Honestly if the school systems had more administors like your self things would be alot better for us all. You are a change agent and I am sure that student will not let you down. God bless your efforts.

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